Why Accountability Matters More Than Sympathy
When my ex-wife and I left HOPCC in 2005, we were shunned by everyone except the Jordan family. While the shunning itself did not bother me much, what has stayed with me is the anger at being lied to and deceived for years. That betrayal is something I cannot easily set aside.
Since then I have watched dozens of families and ministers leave HOPCC. Many share their stories here and are met with empathy and support. I understand that leaving a high control group is painful, confusing, and even traumatic. In that sense they are victims. But I cannot ignore the fact that while inside the organization many of these same people were not simply bystanders. They were ministers, leaders, and enforcers. They contributed to the spiritual and emotional harm of others. They upheld and reinforced the same system of manipulation and fear that hurt so many. Some even shunned people like me when we left, only to later present themselves as victims of the same system.
That contradiction is difficult to accept. It is not enough to say, “I was deceived too.” Healing requires honesty. It requires owning the role you played, even if you believed you were serving God at the time. If you contributed to harm, admit it. If you enforced the shunning, acknowledge it. If you stood in a pulpit and reinforced the lies, take responsibility.
I am not interested in rewriting history to make anyone look innocent. What I respect is truth. I respect those who are willing to stand up and admit they were both victims and participants. I respect those who can apologize and seek to repair what was broken. Without that, there is no healing. There is only denial and self-pity.
I do not need to feel sympathy for those who once caused misery. What I need to see is accountability. Only then can there be any genuine restoration.
They also feel they can play games, hurt you, talk trash about and then when they see you doing better they like to play physological games with you like you deserved what you went through and make it seem like you need to come back.
But God can meet you anywhere and everywhere . He will revenge those that hurt you there a lot of churches in revival on fire . You can make prayer anywhere and shun those that hurt you . God will repay . House of prayer is garbage . Yes they pray , but prayer will lead you too a right spirit towards ur fellow man , I’ve heard Denis pray and Gods spirit come down but it didn’t change his abusive spirit..and it didn’t change those around him. Everybody that was around him that sat in the front row for honor so to speak has left . Preachers have quit . Real prayer keeps you and saves you . How can a man have so much power but can’t keep a fly saved . He’s garbage