Cult life attracts traumatized people and creates traumatized people.
This is a hard share. Unresolved trauma of ones past can make one suseptable to falling into cults. Or moving and being away from family support like home sick military members. Recent losses, job changes and life crisis. One has to look back at why they may have felt comfortable at NTCC or HOPCC.
I understand why those left still have such a strong hold because of unresolved trauma, be it from their past or whats been done to them in these churches by leadership.
The cult in essence becomes an addiction as a way to cope with life and requires so much self-abdonment, it can literally make one sick.
God wants our authentic self. Being a child of God offers a true place of healing. But if you‘re feeling anxiety, defensiveness and blame over a loss of a Pastor thats facing legit consequences, that IS literal physical withdrawals from an addiction. An addiction to maked harmony over being fully authentic with all emotions and feelings. While we can have a feeling of family within a church… its toxic if one can‘t rely only on Jesus for their inner identity. This is what gives you discernment. Where we can walk from a church and its leaders if the environment and culture is not lining up to the Bible. If one chooses otherwise, to go along to get along in avoidance of conflict and the world…. You may want to explore Trauma Informed Theraphy resources.
I see anger all over their posts directed outward… is anyone allowed to FEEL anger at FNULNU for his position in all of this? Were they allowed to feel anger at their parents as a child? Thats the connection.
It‘s not to blame our parents… it’s to learn how we model those who have power over us. It’s not to make fun if people, no one escaped childhood unscathed. But now you’re an adult… you don’t need parental direction from a FNULNU or cold spouse… You‘Re most loving parent is God, out Father. He is a perfect parent to cling to.