A Narcissist is a person who thrives on controlling people, and so zeros in on people who they think they can gain control over. When a Narcissist realizes that there is someone in their circle of influence whom they cannot control, it is very upsetting to them, and they will eventually shun that person and tell lies about them in order to get others to shun them also. The Narcissist is extremely uncomfortable around anyone who is more successful than they are, or who seems to possess those things that the Narcissist doesn’t. The Narcissist envies those who are influential and squared away and are thus a threat to the Narcissist. The Narcissist must be the center of admiration or he or she feels threatened. This is the reason why Narcissistic ministers will drive members from the congregation because such members refuse to be controlled by their dictates. People who can think and make decisions for themselves are a threat to such ministers because they hate the notion that their opinions aren’t the apex of all wisdom and knowledge. Narcissistic ministers are only comfortable around those who consider their advice as equal to the voice of God Himself. They become angry if someone questions their advice or opinions, because such people aren’t fooled by their supposed authority, and they worry that they will be exposed for the frauds that they really are! They become extremely upset when there is someone who refuses to be controlled by them. The Narcissist must convince others of their entitlement and importance and require their total admiration. In short, the Narcissist lacks the qualities that they want everyone to think they have. It is a condition of low self-esteem on their part so they must play the charade that they are both successful and important. If any impropriety is discovered by someone about the Narcissist, he will Gaslight them into believing that they aren’t seeing things correctly. Instead of the Narcissist apologizing to those whom they’ve offended, they will turn the tables on them and convince them to apologize to him instead. Narcissists are masters at turning things in their own favor and interests, even at the expense of demonizing those who see through their charade. Narcissistic ministers hate for their congregants to take advice from anyone other than themselves since to take advice from anyone other than the Narcissist becomes a threat. Such ministers will tell lies about those whom they can’t control in order to destroy any influence they may have over those in the congregation. These Narcissistic ministers will even put other ministers in seemingly important positions of authority, but that too is only a facade because those ministers had better not become more influential than the Narcissist or they will quickly be removed from those positions! These ministers actually are required to receive their marching orders from the Narcissist so that the Narcissist is still the one in control. From the top the Narcissist controls everyone down to the bottom so the Narcissist’s pride may constantly be satisfied. The Narcissist and his edicts ARE the organization. One’s acceptance in the group is dictated by whether or not they adhere to everything the Narcissist leader requires. Any group with the title of “Organization” while having at the top a Narcissist leading it is NOT an “Organization” but is actually a MAN. In the organization we escaped from, one minister asked the leader of the organization about starting an all-spanish service, to which the leader told him "No." The minister then asked the leader if he could present the idea to the Board members, to which the leader replied, "I AM THE BOARD."
"Little children, keep yourselves from idols." (1 John 5:21)